Be a close friend to your mind, a very close friend to your heart and a fast friend to your soul
A person will not find joy outside if he fails to find true joy within himself. Place him in heaven or in the company of angels, he will still be deficit of happiness. The true joy must be experienced right in the heart within ourselves if we are to experience it ever. The outside world is only accompanying us to celebrate it.
The springs of spirituality and emotionality flow from the streams of satisfaction and pleasure. Both sprout inside our being. We set out for outward journey to search peace and joy neglecting the real sources of joy. These springs dry up and stop feeding the nerves of contentment.
Prophet of Islam (SAW) once said to his companions, 'Beware! There is a lump of flesh in the body, if it is good (reformed) the whole body becomes good and if it gets spoilt, the entire body gets spoilt and hearken, that is the heart.' The heart is really an axis around which our spiritual and emotional being spins. The strength of this axis determines our physical, emotional and spiritual wellness. No doubt, it receives stimuli from outside at various times but in most of the cases it fails to process it into joy and contentment. That signifies the unwell state of the heart. We notice this; we feel and perfectly experience this too. But, we still look at outer world to find out the clue of joy.
We need a conversation with our hearts, a continuous dialogue to know its well being, potential and strength. We can learn how to re-identity ourselves with it and its immense impact to make us the happiest beings. We need to work towards greater development of personal conscience and personal awareness. Once we are able to know our inner capacity to receive what divinity, great men and experiences have much to give us, we will hammer out on every ghost of engineered unhappiness hidden in heart, mind and body. If the heart remains filled with the filth of hatred, selfishness, envy, temptation and greed, it is more a dustbin than a heart. How shall it trigger the hinges of lasting smiles, true joy and pleasure? These things need to be moped out to give heart its role to play.
It is great to have a friend. We share what we have with a friend, and he shares what he has. Understand, that your friend is your friend. But, it can't be so always, remember this too. It is an experience. Be a close friend to your mind, a very close friend to your heart and a fast friend to your soul. Let the soul brings fore those inner capacities and put all things in front of your mind and heart to make a good deal of soulful life. This can be a beautiful contract between you and your great friends, the mind, heart and the soul. Utilize the power of this wonderful equation. Realize it deeply and then put in front of it your agonies and pressures and the trio will share all inner ways and methods to settle all that shakes your confidence. Your heart will feel you the best, your mind will share wisdom and your soul will hold you when you begin to fall. To do this, needs some homework and a little courage too.
While living in outside world, you can learn to work with yourself, as well. Here, you need to be steadfast. You can give up anything, but should never give up this goal. The more you can tap into your heart and make yourself aware of what you carry and what needs to be let go or received to move forward, the greater your impact will be and the more happy you will feel. This is an art. Once we learn it, we can be happy even when things around us are nothing like we would like them to be. We can never suffer because the source of all joy goes with us wherever we go. Believe in hidden hand, the sustainer of this source. Nothing can destroy our peace of mind if we realize ourselves as God's creation. God is with us wherever we go, if we feel His existence in the lump of flesh, the heart. And, we will definitely feel special, if we read out God's 'signature' on it.